You made a decision.. and now a part of you is quietly wondering if it was the right one.
Do you follow through? Or do you change your mind?
It's one of those things almost no one talks about, but so many of us wrestle with in private. Because changing your mind can feel like weakness.. like you're being flaky, unreliable, someone who can't be counted on. And following through can feel like strength.. even when something deep down is telling you it isn't right.
In a recent satsang, someone asked me about exactly this. They'd made a decision, communicated it, and then started to feel it wasn't right.. but a part of them wanted to follow through anyway. And they were honest enough to ask the real question underneath it: how much of this is genuine, and how much of it is just pride?
The two extremes
Most of us swing between two patterns.
On one end.. "I can't decide. I'm always swayed by everyone else, and when I do decide, I change my mind." So we get received as unreliable, or indecisive, or flaky.
On the other end.. "I've decided, and I'll never change my mind." So decisive that once it's made, it's fixed. My way or the highway.
Neither extreme is wrong, exactly. The work is learning which pattern is running your show.. and then learning to calibrate. Too rigid. Too loose. Too rigid. Too loose. Until you start to find the middle that actually works.
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Pride, or something real?
Here's the part that lands for most people. If you're asking whether your commitment is coming from pride.. that question itself is usually a clue. It doesn't mean you're wrong to follow through. It means there's something worth bringing a little awareness to.
Because a decision made from rigidity ("I've decided, so that's final") feels very different from a decision made from genuine clarity.. even when they look identical from the outside.
I go into all of this in the full satsang.. live and unscripted. If you've ever been stuck after a decision, second-guessing yourself, or unsure whether changing your mind is weakness or wisdom.. this one is for you.
Watch the full satsang above. And if it lands, come and sit with us live.
We hold these every Friday in the free elev8 community.. come join us if you'd like to be in the room.
And if you want to actually work with the pattern behind your decisions, the free 7-Day Inner Work Challenge is the place to start.
Big love, Dylan